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TITLE: IF YOU WERE MY MAN
AUTHOR: Francis Ray
PUBLISHER: St. Martin's Paperback
GENRE: Contemporary Romance
Format: Mass-market Paperback
Nathalyia Fontaine has been the sole proprietor of the restaurant Fontaine since her husband died four years ago. She hasn’t dated anyone in all those years, choosing not to open her heart again, or risk revealing her dark past. That is, until she meets Rafael Dunlap.Read Excerpt
Rafael is a hostage negotiator with his own set of problems. Though he loves women, he vows he’ll never marry because his job is just too unpredictable. He can’t imagine leaving a widow and children behind. But his thinking and game plan of loving and leaving changes when he meets Nathalyia. Though she tries to resist him, Rafael sweeps her into a whirlwind romance. When the unexpected happens, and Natalya is forced to keep it a secret, she ends things with Rafael before he can break her heart. But when Rafael is in harms way, will Nathalyia resolve to tell him the truth before it’s too late? Or will past demons keep them apart forever?
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1.Rafael wanted Nathalyia from their first meeting. Do you think a strong sexual attraction initially draws most couples together?
Initially it’s the law of attraction that pull people together. Sad, but true. People have to feel that chemical reaction for another person or they would just walk on by. I loved the beginning scene when Rafael and Nat meet. Nat is as cool as a cucumber and Rafael isn’t used to someone not melting at his feet, but like he says to his buddies at the table, “I love a challenge.” But isn’t that the male moto…loving a challenge
2.Nathalyia was wealthier than Rafael, yet money was never an issue between them. Would you date a man less successful than you. How important is income in a relationship.
Money is important in the fact that each party coming to the relationship have some. For me I’m not worried if I am more successful than the man I’m with. I feel that my success shows what a strong, independent and steady person. When you get down to it money can only make or break a relationship if the people in the relationship use it as a meter to rate how successful they are.
3.Nahalyia is ashamed of her family and denied their existence. The decision came back to haunt her when her sister showed up at Fontaine. Is there ever a valid reason for turning your back on your family? Can anyone, no matter how dishonest or deceitful, be redeemed? Could Nathalyia’s sister?
Speaking from personal experience yes there can always be a valid reason why a person can turn away from their family. Sometimes it is for the best—for the person who has turned away—to break away from their family. I felt for Nat because growing up with her mother and sister’s who used their body—getting pregnant—to trap a man and living off welfare really played an intricate part into driving Nat to succeed and not being second best. I’m not sure if a person who lies, cheats and deceives people can actually change. A person has to be willing to change and like Nat’s sister, Theresa she didn’t want to change. She wanted to cheat and steal from Nat because she was jealous of the success Nat had become in spite of her family.
4.Clarice had a quick temper, caring heart, and a record for going out with losers. Why do you think some woman have trouble finding good men. Do they settle? Are they impatient and just get tired of being alone, or are some men, especially the no-good ones, very persuasive?
Clarice is very much like a lot of women out there thinking that they have to take what comes there way and never seeing their very own potential. I loved that Jake loved Clarice with her faults and all. I don’t believe in general have a hard time finding a good man or that we are no-good low-down-dirty-dog magnet. I think women draw the type of man they believe they deserve not necessarily the right man they should be with. A woman who has low self esteem will look at a good guy but feel either she could never obtain him or that she doesn’t deserve him. It really is the woman’s perception of her self and what she believes she deserves to have in a man. Once the woman believe in what she deserves to have then that type of man will be drawn to her. Well, at least that’s my perception.
5.Jake loved Clarice, but he didn’t speak up because of the scar on his face and their fifteen-year age difference. Have you ever cared for someone, but were afraid to tell him or her? If you didn’t speak up, do you regret your decision?
Even though I’m a woman I can sympathize with Jake. I’ve always looked and loved from afar. And if I’m really honest, which I will be—I ended up settling which, wasn’t the best thing I ever did. I do regret not telling that person how I felt about him at the time. I have, from time to time, those random moments when driving in my car listening to a song wondering what he’s doing now, if he’s married and happy. But looking back, yeah I should have said something. Like I tell my girls what’s the worse a person can say—No—which might hurt your heart for a while but eventually it will heal…eventually
6.Is there ever a good enough reason to not to tell a man he’s the father of your baby?
Okay, considering that Nathaylia found out she was pregnant and scared to death to tell Rafael in fear that he would think she was trapping him just like her mother and sisters had done…I’m sort of on the fence about the way Nat went about telling him she was pregnant—first by Invitro by her dead husband a week before she met Rafael and then finally breaking down and telling Rafael that he was the father was perfect for the story line. Plus, I believe that Nat’s character would completely do this when you take in everything she’s gone through and how she was raised. But in the real world there really isn’t a good enough reason not to tell a man he is going to be a father. I know, we woman would love to control how a man responds to finding out he is going to be a father. But really we have no control….the only thing we have is telling him he’ll be a father. The rest is left up to him to step up and be a dad.
7.The road to happiness was not a smooth for Nathaylia and Rafael or Clarice and Jake. Lies, secrets, fears and insecurities all played a role in keeping them apart. When do you know you love a person and that the love is worth the risk? Is it a feeling? Something he/she says or does?
I believe it’s all of the above. Feelings and how the person treats you play a major part in risking your love for. I think now a days people want a drive-thru love where it’s a quick fix and once they feel the release they through it away and drive thru again. I yearn for the long love—not lust—but genuine love where a person has got your back no matter what. A love that sees you not only through the bad and good times, but the times your fears, insecurities come to creep in on you. I loved “IF YOU WERE MY MAN” because Francis Ray created strong endearing characters with real flaws and insecurities that every reader could relate to. There were so many moments when I would read and FEEL exactly what Nat was feeling because I had gone through something similar and wondered if I would have handled it better. The intense chemistry of the prose was wrapped and guided by flesh and blood characters that made you laugh and cry a little on this wonderful journey